Mediation is reconciliation, negotiation and talking freely in a safe space.
And sometimes we can’t do it on our own-yes being self serving we think we can handle all situations without outside help but NO we can’t.
Sometimes we don’t know why we behave the way we do and a common problem is not just talking about it but denying it.
We get frustrated because we don’t know how to say what we feel, think esp if the other person or persons are smirking or mocking or ignoring you and they do these as they know you will respond with some emotion.
Understanding and being concerned about others and letting them have their say without interruption is important.
If this can’t be done and you feel the relationship is becoming one sided, tense or volitile or dangerous or uncomfortable or your gut is tight with tension or stress: it’s time to talk -it’s time to mediate.
Mediation is not counseling you want to learn how to talk things through-how to access a situation and learn how to CONTROL yourself.
Mediation is less adversarial and more an interest-based process based on consensus and collaborative agreement.
- Mediation is negotiation, negotiation and negotiation.
- Mediation is confidential and impartial. Mediation is there to help people express their own needs.
- Mediation is terminated or caucused if it becomes threatening and intimidatory.
- Mediation is concluded when a mutually acceptable agreement is reached, the parties, with the help of the Mediator, will draft an agreement detailing the terms of the settlement.
- With couples-families-the elderly agreements aren’t drawn up but ideas and methods can be written down to help to remember when the proverbial hits the fan.
- When all parties agree to its terms, the parties and sometimes the Mediator sign the written settlement.
- Parties may, where appropriate, get expert advice prior to the signing of their agreement.
- Mediation is a voluntary safe process. This link will explain the mediation 2012 Bill.